Connect With NM
Quick Short Messages
The best way to contact me is to send me a short message. On Twitter, I’m @nm and this button creates a tweet to me:
On App.net, I’m @n_m and this button creates an App.net message to me:
On email, I’m email@example.com and this button creates an email message to me:
If you use one of the above buttons to create a message, you can delete the Hi ɯu part, but if you leave it there, I’m more likely to see your message.
The rest of this page discusses other ways to connect with me and how I use social networking services.
Connecting Is More Than Messaging
In the 1980s and 1990s, the main way that I connected with people was through email or Usenet messages. Nowadays, we can connect through email, Usenet, and many other social networking systems. And connecting means a lot more than messaging. You can connect with me by:
- Following me
- Starring my posts
- Reposting my posts or excerpts of my posts with attribution
- Replying to or commenting on my posts
- Posting links to my sites or posts
- Joining discussion groups that I participate in
- Sending me public or private messages
Here are some of the sites and systems I’m on.
- Microblogging systems
- Tumblelog: nancym.tumblr.com
- Delicious bookmarks: delicious.com/Deflexion.com or previous.delicious.com/Deflexion.com
- Email: mailto:firstname.lastname@example.org (this is one of my Outlook.com aliases)
- Text messaging: For those of you who have my mobile phone number, please be aware that I have a pay-as-you-go TracFone and get charged for each 160-character message. Please keep your SMS messages short!
How I Use Social Networking Systems
I’m more attracted to object-centric social networks than ego-centric social networks, and I wrote about this in 2007 in IUseThis: Social Networking for Nerds. So far, I have not joined Facebook, LinkedIn, or most other ego-centric social networking systems. I use public social networking systems to:
- Follow or follow1 people and entities who post interesting things,
- share things that I find interesting, and
- communicate about non-personal things.
I use private social networking systems, such as private messaging systems, to communicate about personal things that I don’t want to be public.
If I star something, it might mean one of the following:
- this is interesting (good, bad, a hoax, fun, funny, weird, etc.)
- read this, or the links in it, later
- when I have time, check out the poster and maybe follow them
- when I have time, check out the poster and maybe unfollow them or report them for spam
- repost this if, after mulling it over, I decide it’s especially interesting
- automatically do something with this via IFTTT or another automation service
If I post or repost something, it means I find it especially interesting and think others might appreciate it too.
⚠ Note: Follow, star, post, or repost ≠ endorsement!
I don’t like to think of social networking systems as popularity2 contests and I try not to pay attention to who Follows or unFollows me. Please don’t be disappointed if I don’t Follow you back; I probably haven’t even noticed that you Followed me! Also, I’m usually at or near my Twitter and App.net Follow limits3, and often need to unFollow an account before I can start Following another account. If I recently Followed you on Twitter or App.net, it means that I find you very interesting (and that I don’t care if the profilers know that I find you interesting).
The Right to Privacy
I don’t like being profiled so I do things to try to make it hard for bots to profile me. For example:
- I’m not findable on social networking systems by my email address.
- I try to use a different email address for each system I join.
- I don’t give my contact list to any site or service.
- I use upside-down text for my display name.
- I do not give my full real name, full birth date, my location, or other identifying information when I register for systems.
- I don’t discuss my personal life in public social networking systems.
⚠ Note To Real-Life Friends: If you’re wondering why I’m not following you, I’m probably following you in a private list or a private RSS feed reader to try to confuse the profilers.
I receive a lot of messages and, in order to get things done in real life, I try to check my public messages at most once a day. The type of message that I’m most likely to quickly reply to:
- is short4,
- asks or comments about one topic, and
- gives me permission to publish the message and my response by either explicitly stating that5 (in a private message) or implicitly implying that (in a public Twitter, App.net, Identi.ca, Tumblr, mailing-list, or Usenet message).
Private or Direct Messages on Microblogging Systems
I prefer to use microblogging systems for public messaging and if I don’t know you in real life, I probably won’t reply to a private or direct message from you. My goal is to publicly reply to all (non-spam) public message. If I don’t, it does not mean I’m ignoring you, but either that I didn’t see your message or I’ve procrastinated replying. You are welcome to nudge me by sending email to me at email@example.com.
My Latest Tweets
As you can see from my tweets below, I retweet a lot. If you want to Follow me, but don’t want to see my retweets, you can turn off my retweets or follow me in a list in which I’m the only member (this works because retweets are not shown in lists).
I use uppercase-F Follow to mean Follow in my home Twitter/Tumblr/SocialNetwork timeline and lowercase-f follow to mean follow some other way (in a list, via RSS, by periodically looking at the relevant web page, etc.). I follow thousands of people in Twitter lists and wrote about that in an article titled Twitter Lists. ↩
I don’t pay a lot of attention to my social network numbers because I don’t like to think of social networks (or life in general) as popularity contests. I’m happy if I have a few intelligent, wise, helpful, thought-provoking, weird, and/or wonderful connections. ↩
On Twitter, I currently can Follow at most 2000 accounts because I don’t have X Followers (where X is an unknown number to me). On App.net, I can Follow at most 40 accounts because I have a free/gratis account. Let me know if you know X or if you’d like an invitation for a free/gratis App.net account. ↩
One way to specify that a message is shareable is to put this in your signature:
This message is: [x] shareable [ ] ask first [ ] private↩